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A Day in the Life of a Gentleman for Hire

It’s been glamorized in Hollywood and stigmatized in society. What are we talking about? The life and business of escorts. But not just any escorts. Male escorts or as many go by, a “gentleman for hire”.

Until recently, the business of male escorts was largely unknown, with the long-standing belief by many that the profession was only for females.

We’re here to help dismantle that misconception, while providing you with an inside look into the day to day life of a real gentleman for hire. Fact is, the “daily life” of a gentleman for hire is often anything but what one might expect.

Meet Jack

No, his last name isn’t “off”, but he does want to maintain his anonymity, so we’ll be respectful and simply refer to him as “Jack”.

Jack is 31, a younger gentleman with only a few years of service under his belt. He is what is known as a “straight” male escort. This means that he only “dates” women through his service.

Q: Jack, Can you Tell us a Little About How you Got Into the Business?

Sure. I’ve always had a way with people. I found early on that I had a strong empathy for others and was able to make honest and real connections easily. Although I went to Uni, going down the path of say “sales” or becoming a “social worker” were not that appealing to me.

I had heard about a company that helped young aspiring gentlemen start a career as an “escort”. Of course, being young I thought it was all about the sex. But after doing some research I found out that quite the opposite was true. Companies like Gentlemen 4 Hire specialize in “non-sexual” male escort services that caters to the “experience” of companionship as a whole.

To be honest, the life sounded amazing. Meeting new people? Check. Having interesting experiences? Check. Helping others make a real connection and offering an empathetic ear to listen? Check.

The rest is history.

Q: That’s fantastic. Thank you for Sharing. I think what many of our readers want to know…is what is it like?

There are a lot of negative stigmas that have been cultivated over the years regarding the “escort” industry. But most of what you see and hear on the “news” or in the movies simply isn’t how it is in real life. Sure, there are glamourous nights on rooftops, and sultry backroom encounters…these things can and do happen, but it’s so much more than that.

It’s a profession. A career. And one that I take very seriously. All good gentlemen for hire do the same. We have a moral and ethical duty to be the very best version of ourselves for our clients and to cater to their every whim and need. From emotional support, to pampering them on a night out on the town. The possibilities are endless.

Q: What Kind of a Schedule do You Work, If Any?

One thing you can count on in this business is that things can change fast. It’s good to have a set routine, and I do, but last-minute changes to itineraries, cancellations, or emergencies do come up. It’s the nature of the business, unfortunately. I imagine this is similar to any “in-person” type of service.

As a gentleman for hire, I also take great lengths to accommodate the evolving needs of my clients. For example, if they need to meet late due to a stressful long day at work I try to fit them in. Or perhaps they just had a breakup with a significant other and need some support. These things can happen without notice and I do my best to be of any assistance I can.

But to answer your question, I do have days when I have set appointments and a pretty well-defined set of “working hours”. Self-care is incredibly important in order to be the best version of my I can be, so I try to make sure I have enough “down time” to work on myself, health and well-being.

Some days I only work a few hours, others I’m booked all day. On a busy day I might meet with “new” prospective clients from morning through lunch. These are typically “get to know you” sessions to make sure it’s a good fit from both sides. Late lunch through the evening I may have 1-2 dedicated appointments with existing clients. These run the gambit from overnight stays in swanky hotels, to a relaxing dinner and conversation at their favorite restaurant, or simply blowing off some steam at a local bar. On other days I might not have any “appointments” in person at all and instead focus on cultivating new relationships online and responding to inquiries.

Q: What Does An Average Day Look Like for You? Take Us Through Your Routine if you Will.

As an escort, there are certain expectations clients have. They expect us to be fit, well-groomed, well dressed and well-spoken.

Much of my daily routine is centered around these elements.

Wakening Up and Planning My Day

Nothing exciting here. Early alarm (unless I’ve had a late night out). Hit the gym in my apartment complex. Shower, personal hygiene, etc.

It’s probably important to note that we (as in escorts) likely take personal hygiene and grooming to the extreme (laughs). Again, looking the part is important. You don’t need to be a 10/10 on the handsome scale to work in this business, but women expect that you take care of yourself.

You don’t need to be a 10/10 on the handsome scale to work in this business, but women expect that you take care of yourself.

Style and Apparel

Style and fashion are very important. More so to the women than it is to us men. Think GQ magazine. We all have our own personal “look” of course, but that look is very well refined and “put together” in a way that presents all of our best ass-ets if you know what I mean.

That said, gentlemen for hire typically have a pretty extensive wardrobe. After all, we need to “look the part” for many different women, each with their own personal preferences. As such we’re a bit of a chameleon in that sense, able to dress for the occasion at a moment’s notice.

First Up, See What the Day Holds

Again, this is a business. And I treat it as such. After my morning workout and hygiene regimen, I fire up the laptop and see what is on the books for the day. My calendar runs my life. Its how I stay organized.

Q: Speaking of Business…I’d be Doing Our Curious Readership a Disservice if I Didn’t Ask…how much of your Business is “Getting Down to Business” if you know what I mean?

I do (laughs). Look, I get this a lot. Again, this goes back to the stereotype. Sexual work, acts and/or favors is NOT part of what the client pays for. In fact, they can’t even “order” it. That said, if there is a real connection and the client and I both (as free willing consenting adults) want to kiss, fool around, or have sex, yeah we can and we do.

It happens. But it also happens for regular people on regular dates. So really its nothing out of the ordinary and is either glamorized or vilified way too much in the media.

So, to answer your question more precisely, you can’t “buy sex”, but it does regularly happen, it just isn’t part of the paid service, or what the service is really about. We’re about making real connections, conversation and providing companionship.

Q: Ok so Let’s Say you Have some Appointments Booked. What Would That Look Like?

That is a loaded question. The possibilities of that day are only limited by your imagination really. It could be as elaborate as a carriage drawn romantic evening strolling the streets, followed by a romantic dinner and then a nightcap at a luxury hotel. It could entail a night out at a local dive bar where no one knows the client and we can relax and let loose. Some clients hire me for dates to special events or occasions such as weddings or charity events.

“Dates” could last a couple hours, or up to three days. I once had a client book me for over a week straight for a European getaway vacation.

Q: Wow, Sounds Like a Very Interesting Profession. Is there anything else you would like readers to know before we finish?

Yeah. I’d like them to know that we are “human” just like them. This is a job. It isn’t always easy, but its valid, and its not just about “sex”. We provide an often very needed service of companionship, compassion, empathy and care that many clients don’t have in their lives.

There You Have it: a day in the life

Thank you for tuning in. We hope you enjoyed a peek behind the curtain into the life of a real
“Gentleman for Hire”. Who knows, you or a friend may find that someday you’re willing to give a similar service a “try”.

George Lavas

George is dedicated to fashion and style for men. Based in the UK, George enjoys writing about lifestyle and fashion from both sides of the pond. George created BeStylish.org to help readers create a strong sense of style with minimum effort believing that everyone can look and feel good, all day, every day.

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